But the important thing is to know how to see beyond. To love our body despite this constant reminder that we do not fit perfectly into the concept of ideal beauty. But it’s not always easy. We tend to be our own worst critics, judging ourselves, putting ourselves on the negative side and insulting ourselves in our own privacy. To remedy this, the digital portal Psychology Today gives 4 recommendations to train us in the art of being kind to ourselves.
The psychologist recommends treating and viewing the body with compassion. “Talk to your body as if it were that of someone you love.” Would you say to your best friend “look at this love handles”, “what a little ass” or “how disgusting your stretch marks are”? No, never. Talk to yourself as you would talk to your best friend. And never say anything to yourself that you wouldn’t think yourself capable of saying to those you love the most.
“Never think of your body by its appearance but by its functions,” Engeln advises, “your body helps you create, give and share. Your body is imperfect, yes, but think about how grateful you should be for it because it allows you to connect with the world, to give hugs, to kiss, to run, to travel.
Psychologist Amaya Terrón, who answers Verne by phone, explains this mental process: overexposure to a stimulus ends up emptying it. “The psychological explanation for the fact that a song we like ends up boring us lies in habituation. By overstimulating the pleasure centers, the stimulus loses its evocative potential,” he says.
Terrón compares boredom with a song, no matter how much we like it, to food: “You can love chocolate, but if you overdo it, you’ll end up getting sick of it. It will stop stimulating you and will no longer create the neural processes that triggered the pleasure”.
In psychology, habituation is used to overcome fears. “It works with both good and bad stimuli. In therapy, the patient is gradually exposed to fear-provoking situations in order to overcome them. At the end of the day, it consists of getting used to something,” he explains. When we get tired (or used to it) depends on the individual.
Translation: a part of the brain anticipates the part we like the most and so endorphins are released. “It is thought that the more we know a song, the less our brains light up in anticipation of that moment,” states the article in The Independent, in which music psychology expert Michael Bonshor, a doctor at the University of Sheffield (UK), opines. Like Terrón, Bonshor believes that “a song can become boring to us because of overexposure. Experiments have shown that we appreciate a song less the less new it is to us”.
Valentine’s Eve. But there are also souls who are bitter enemies of good old Valentine. Souls that would like to see him put to the sword with the Roman refinement of the time. Yes, there are rotten hearts, more than black, that beat to the rhythm of rancor, heartbreak, revenge and anger. In short, that beat only for hatred. And they beat happily and satisfied.
Because it is well known that hate is the intimate enemy of love and vice versa. They complement each other as much as they feed on each other. And we can feel them with the same strength and passion. They move the world at the same time and that is why they have filled pages and pages of real and invented stories. So today, at the gates of the feast of love, let’s invite your best friend. Here are some phrases that also inspired these great writers.
7. He knew well about hatred, because he who hates with tenacity knows how to recognize well that same feeling in others and knows how to appreciate when an animosity is already definitive and irreversible. Santiago Posteguillo
Like chewing without making noise
The Parthenon of Books, a creation by Argentine artist Marta Minujin, presented at the Documenta 14 Fair in Kassel (Germany) in 2017, is made with books that were previously banned or are now banned in some countries.
“Poets are not the unacknowledged legislators of the world,” as the well-known quote by the British poet Shelley goes, “they never have been, and they had better be persuaded of that,” writes Wystan Hugh Auden in this unpublished text from 1947. He questions here the limits of freedom and art, their potentials and interactions. Far from the romantic vision of art that conferred on it more importance than it actually possesses, the Anglo-American writer defends the Shakespearean vision: art holds up a mirror to nature.
Freedom means freedom of choice. We exercise this freedom when, faced with two or more possible actions, we decide to perform one, discarding all others. Free choices are clear choices. Liberal theologians have been foolishly enthusiastic about Heisenberg’s principle: uncertainty of behavior may be appropriate for electrons, but it is not sufficient for free men.